I would like to introduce you to a new book, They’re Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents’ Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy by Francine Russo.
About They’re Your Parents, Too!
Your parents are growing older and are getting forgetful, starting to slow down, or worse. Suddenly you find yourself at the cusp of one of the most important transitions in your life—and the life of your family. Your parents need you and your siblings to step up and take care of them, a little or a lot. To make the right things happen, you will all need to work together. And yet your siblings may have very different ideas from yours of what’s best for Mom and Dad. They may be completely uninterested in helping, leaving you with all the responsibility. Or they may take charge and not allow you to help, or criticize whatever help you do give. Will you and your siblings be able to reach an understanding and work together, or will the challenges you face tear you apart?
Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the “old” family to the “new” one, especially for adult siblings. Here you’ll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including
- Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out?
- How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles?
- How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment?
- How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs?
- How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore?
- Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst?
Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They’re Your Parents, Too! offers all the information, insight, and advice you’ll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents’ place as the decision-making generation of your family.
Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.
You can purchase your copy They’re Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents’ Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy of from Amazon today.
- Hardcover: 304 pages
- Publisher: Bantam; 1 edition (January 26, 2010)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0553806998
- ISBN-13: 978-0553806991
- Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.4 x 1.2 inches
About Francine Russo
Francine Russo is a widely recognized journalist who covered the boomer beat for Time magazine for nearly a decade and authored the “Ask Francine” column. She has also written for The Atlantic, The New York Times Magazine, Redbook, Family Circle, Ladies Home Journal, Self, Glamour, and The Village Voice. A mother of two and stepmother of three, she has a Ph.D. in English and lives in Manhattan.
This is a great book for all children to read, and by children I don’t mean the little ones, I’m talking about the adult ones. Unless you are an only child, you and your siblings are going to have to go through the process of taking care of your elderly parents. There are many things that you as siblings will have to make sure that you are able to communicate and come to agreements on, especially if your parent(s) have not put in writing what their wishes are. Having to take care of your elderly parents can be emotional, life altering, and not communicating with your siblings can add to this. This book helps you understand how to communicate with your siblings and will help you deal with the process of taking care of an elderly parent.
I like the layout of the book, there are four parts:
- Confronting a New Family Passage
- Return to the House of Childhood: Adapting Old Roles and Relationships, Confronting Old Conflicts
- Slipping Away: Making Peace with Change and Loss
- Reinventing the Family for Our Generation: Sharing Stories, Passing on Legacies
If you or someone you know is in the situation of having to take care of an elderly parent, I would definitely suggesting purchasing a copy of They’re Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents’ Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy from Amazon today.
Disclosure: I would like to thank Jocelyn at Meryl L. Moss Media Relations, Inc. for providing a copy of this book for the purpose of this review. All opinions are my own.